Trio meet Liz

Up until today’s session Liz has predominantly talked to Sophie.  Today, Liz got B acting as a filter for M and One.  This group present quite differently to Sophie.  Sophie is gentle, shy and talks very softly; while the trio are observers, direct and carefully consider all responses.  As an example, if Liz asked who was present, Sophie would immediately respond with her name; while the trio would want to respond with “it’s none of your business”, but would mull it over and then say “mainly B”.

This trio is what Carol used to call the no-affective response powerhouse.  It can be quite intimidating and definitely throws an inexperienced therapist.  But for the trio, there were questions and issues that needed addressing – informing Liz of what happened at the support group appointment and questioning the whole “who have you become” statement.  It also made the observations of Liz easier, as the softness of Sophie was eliminated from the equation.

It became obvious that Liz has decided that father abuse is the main issue – despite the fact that there is no mention of this abuse on our records and us not having mentioned it within session.  We’re losing approximately half to three quarter of the sessions to stress and dissociative related memory loss, so it’s possible it has been mentioned and we’re not aware of it.  Liz is looking at the family dynamics and trying to understand them – we wish her luck.  I thought that’s why they invented ambiguous labels like “dysfunctional”, so that you didn’t need to poke at some things.

We made our discomfort with the “who have you become now” phrase known.  Liz clarified that she wasn’t meaning anything about us acting different roles when there was a switch.  It will be interesting to see if she uses it again.

I’ve often thought we must be an awful client for any therapist.  We don’t attach in any sort of way to anyone and because of the compartmentalisation we appear to contradict ourselves so often it must be hard for the therapist to keep any sort of event straight.

In other news, it’s all over with Kriss and the young ones have just started a blog of their own to help increase communication and participation – worked a little too well last night with us being woken up by a young one who wanted to write that they liked the header image that was used :)

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11 Responses to “Trio meet Liz”

  1. 1 Paul May 12, 2009 at 1:23 pm

    Sounds like you’ve made quite a bit of progress. Great for bringing up the “who have you become now” phrase. All of us with DID are constantly contradicting ourselves when looked at from the big picture. But to each of us, we make perfect sense.

    • 2 castorgirl May 13, 2009 at 12:07 pm

      Yes, One raised it and noted her body language and tone to see how she reacted. He seemed satisfied as he then stepped back and let M back into the conversation.

      That’s the thing, it is the truth of the one speaking it at the time. However, it isn’t the truth for all of us. We all have our own viewpoints about each incident.

      Take care…

  2. 3 Sam-Embracing-Samo May 12, 2009 at 8:44 pm

    yay for the younger alters starting a blog of their own :)

    and yay for others helping them do so :)

    • 4 castorgirl May 13, 2009 at 12:09 pm

      It was interesting Sam, as the young one who woke us up isn’t one we’ve been aware of before. Not really sure where she came from. Or maybe she’s one we’ve heard from, but never seen?? Not sure, but just that act brought new communication.

      Take care…

  3. 5 lostshadowchild May 12, 2009 at 9:32 pm

    Yep, cool for the young ones to have a own blog :)

  4. 7 Rachel May 12, 2009 at 9:33 pm

    I hope Liz can remember to speak in a more inclusive way for you. Glad that your little ones have a place to speak! :)

    • 8 castorgirl May 13, 2009 at 12:12 pm

      She really didn’t mean anything at all negative by the statement. It’s probably more an indication of our sensitivity and prior experiences with other mental health professionals that we put that spin on it.

      Take care…

  5. 9 Ivory May 13, 2009 at 1:21 am

    Yes, great that the littles are included! Kudos!

    I’ve talked to my T about the question, “Who’s here now.” He asks it with much respect, tho, and I haven’t minded it, except, sometimes it’s not me! Joke on him! We try to have fun with it.

    • 10 castorgirl May 13, 2009 at 12:17 pm

      We used to do something similar with Carol :) Especially Aimee… Most of us would say “Me” or “Just me” when asked who was here. Sometimes it’s about protecting ourselves, sometimes it’s just that according to whomever is there, it is “just me”. Many of us have an independent “I” function – so B will say “I feel…” and that will relate just to her, at the same time S can say “but I feel…”.

      Sorry we couldn’t comment on your post regarding your mother. I’m glad you were able to express your pain, I hope you can see how amazing and strong that is…

      Take care…
      B & Sophie :)

  6. 11 David May 13, 2009 at 3:27 pm

    I also think it’s great about the blog for your young ones. And I am very sorry to hear about Kriss. Ouch.

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