Up until today’s session Liz has predominantly talked to Sophie. Today, Liz got B acting as a filter for M and One. This group present quite differently to Sophie. Sophie is gentle, shy and talks very softly; while the trio are observers, direct and carefully consider all responses. As an example, if Liz asked who was present, Sophie would immediately respond with her name; while the trio would want to respond with “it’s none of your business”, but would mull it over and then say “mainly B”.
This trio is what Carol used to call the no-affective response powerhouse. It can be quite intimidating and definitely throws an inexperienced therapist. But for the trio, there were questions and issues that needed addressing – informing Liz of what happened at the support group appointment and questioning the whole “who have you become” statement. It also made the observations of Liz easier, as the softness of Sophie was eliminated from the equation.
It became obvious that Liz has decided that father abuse is the main issue – despite the fact that there is no mention of this abuse on our records and us not having mentioned it within session. We’re losing approximately half to three quarter of the sessions to stress and dissociative related memory loss, so it’s possible it has been mentioned and we’re not aware of it. Liz is looking at the family dynamics and trying to understand them – we wish her luck. I thought that’s why they invented ambiguous labels like “dysfunctional”, so that you didn’t need to poke at some things.
We made our discomfort with the “who have you become now” phrase known. Liz clarified that she wasn’t meaning anything about us acting different roles when there was a switch. It will be interesting to see if she uses it again.
I’ve often thought we must be an awful client for any therapist. We don’t attach in any sort of way to anyone and because of the compartmentalisation we appear to contradict ourselves so often it must be hard for the therapist to keep any sort of event straight.
In other news, it’s all over with Kriss and the young ones have just started a blog of their own to help increase communication and participation – worked a little too well last night with us being woken up by a young one who wanted to write that they liked the header image that was used :)