Therapist appointment #3

This morning was a very odd therapy session.  It started off with Aimee coming forward, which isn’t unusual when we are unsure of what to expect – she’s a very happy and outgoing younger one who often checks out what is happening in a non-threatening way.  We talked briefly about the mix-ups with the dates which led to a conversation about the “I beg your pardon” phrase which triggered us from her email.  This in turn raised the issue as to why that phrase is a trigger and the rules that were enforced by the parents.  This trigger started from an event when we were 6-7 and involved the mother washing the second brothers mouth out with soap and us being punished for ruining the oldest brothers hat by the father.  What staggered us all is that these incidents are being held by a young one in The Basement of our internal house.  She’s never talked to anyone on the outside as far as we’re aware.  She’s very devoid of emotions, and has what I’d consider to be rather disturbing reaction to the soap washing incident – she was fascinated.  Not horrified, scared or worried; but fascinated.  I find that rather disturbing and scary.  She feels no desire to hurt anyone else, but was fascinated by watching it occur.

She’s also a rather stubborn little thing.  The hat destruction incident was not caused by us, but we were blamed for it and forced to sit on the bed until we admitted that we had done it – the father was sick of our lies.  This little one refused to admit to something that she didn’t do, so just sat on the bed for hours.  The brothers and sister taunted her, but she just sat there.  It got to the point where the brothers and sister told her to admit to it so that the father would calm down.  It was only then that she admitted to something she didn’t do – in other words she had to lie about something in order to let the father know that she wasn’t going to lie about things anymore – nice double bind for a 6-7 year old don’t you think…

The therapist also tried to check out our awareness of the body.  I hate this line of questioning…  Our awareness of the body alters depending on our level of anxiety, whose present and what sort of physical pain we’re in – we have a spine defect which means there’s always some level of pain.  But generally our awareness of the body is pretty minimal.  It’s an odd concept to explain to anyone who doesn’t experience it themselves.  The therapist seemed to understand that though, so it wasn’t too bad.

Then the really awful part of the session – what diagnosis do we have?  She questioned the number of previous therapists we’ve had (3-4 which she’d wrong written down in her notes previously as 34) and questioned about Borderline Personality Disorder.  We’d been sent through from the crisis team at one stage with BPD as a diagnosis, but had failed to meet the criteria once tested for the personality disorders.

It was a very odd session which again raised some concerns about her very therapisty approach, but we’re going to see what happens after a few more sessions…

In other news, it looks like it’s all over with Kriss.  Not 100% sure, as we haven’t heard back from him after the weekend.  We’re just not healed enough to be able to cope with the relationship.  We read too much into actions (or lack thereof) and it was too much for us to cope with.  It also just isn’t fair on him, he didn’t sign up for this…

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2 Responses to “Therapist appointment #3”


  1. 1 davidrochester March 31, 2009 at 3:41 am

    34 therapists? Good heavens, no wonder she questioned that! :-)

    I hate the body awareness questions, too … they always make me feel like there’s *really* something wrong with me, as I have such trouble staying “in” my body (partly because of chronic pain, which makes it a not-so-fun place to hang out). It always freaks me out when people suggest meditation and breathing exercises to bring me more “into” the body … I’m like … Hello? I’m out of this thing for a *reason*. I don’t WANT to get back into my body. Sheesh!

    Re: Kriss … I know it’s hard, but if you possibly possibly can, try not to make his decision for him. He has sounded like a good guy and a good friend to you … perhaps it would be possible to keep him as a light in your life, even if the more intense aspects of the interaction need to be backed off?

  2. 2 castorgirl March 31, 2009 at 4:06 pm

    Yes it was a rather high number of therapists :) I think this was also why she questioned about the Borderline Personality and why she didn’t check why we didn’t turn up the week before… People with BPD get treated so badly over here.

    I fail spectacularly at meditation. The breathing exercises can be done if they’re aimed at reducing anxiety. I know they’re often aimed at making you more aware of your thoughts, emotions and body; but for some reason they can often trigger a dissociative switch. Some of the worst memory flooding I ever experienced was when meditating – almost like it caused the protective walls to collapse.

    I heard from Kriss this morning… Now that we’re in a relationship we realise how damaged we are. One rather amusing thing is that he’s probably as stubborn as us. He’s also remarkably unfazed by so many of the behaviours that we consider crazy. Still unsure what’s going to happen, but the ones who were gearing us up for running away have calmed down.


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